Between personal desires, dating norms, and physiological logistics, getting it on can be surprisingly complicated. Add in all the false information that’s floating around out there, and we’re all pretty much screwed (and not in the good way).
To help us separate sexual fact from fiction, we asked the field’s top experts—from sex coaches to fertility experts to couples therapists—to tell us the biggest misconceptions about sex they encounter. Here’s what we should really know when we’re getting down.
1. Everyone is having more sex than you.
“People seem to think everyone is doing it a certain number of times per week. Each person’s sex life is their own. The most important question is: Are you happy and are you fulfilled? Would you like to have more sex or less sex? Start by asking that of yourself and then check in with your partner. You want to be on pretty close to the same page. To me that’s the definition of a good sex life, not how often you do it.”
— Rachel Sussman, LCSW, author of The Breakup Bible: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Healing from a Breakup or…