“Good relationships don’t just happen. They take time, patience, and two people who truly want to be together.” ~Unknown
We are wired to seek “the right one,” the ever-supportive partner, and the loving relationship.
If we get all three, it’s like winning the lottery of life. When we meet someone, we dream of him/her being our soul mate. When we are in a relationship, we hope they’ll love and support us unconditionally, and the relationship will be loving and everlasting.
That would be the ideal world, and, unfortunately, the ideal world isn’t the one we live in.
It took me a divorce and a few failed relationships to learn what real love is. Strong, lasting love is not being with “the right one” or being in a relationship that is effortlessly wonderful all the time. That’s a disempowering way of living, just like waiting for life to be perfect.
I came to understand that true love is a daily commitment to make the relationship great by being loving and attentive in our action and our words.
With the exception of cases whereby our partner is purposefully being physically/verbally abusive or emotionally manipulative, to love is to commit to being loving even when our partner unintentionally disappoints, frustrates, or hurt us.</p…